http://theamensisters.com/wordpress/2009/09/22/wheres-your-daddy/ Real love. Real faith. Real life. Sun, 08 Apr 2012 16:32:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://theamensisters.com/wordpress/2009/09/22/wheres-your-daddy/comment-page-1/#comment-8649 Xenia Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:38:21 +0000 http://theamensisters.com/wordpress/?p=862#comment-8649 Hi Angela, After my ex-husband & I divorced, I tried my best to keep my children's father in their lives, but he just wasn't interested. I was the one who would call him to ask if the kids can come over; I was the one who would drop them off/pick them up, when he did consent to see them, and then it was always rush-rush ("When you coming to pick up the kids? I got things to do.") It was very, very frustrating because I thought he was going to be a good father based on his interactions with other children when we were dating. Now that they are adults, I still encourage them to reach out to him, and be the "better person." He's come around a little, but it's still like pulling teeth. I'm sure my children miss him, though they don't say so. They see the relationship other adult children in our family have with their fathers & I know it bothers them. I don't have any animosity toward my ex, I just feel pity for him, because he missed out on so much. Although he attended their graduations, he missed so many birthdays, so many milestones. I just hope he reaches out before it's really too late, before he gets old and they don't want to have anything to do with him. But I will always continue to encourage them to have a relationship with him, because my father died when I was 6 and I never had him in my life even before that. Hi Angela,
After my ex-husband & I divorced, I tried my best to keep my children’s father in their lives, but he just wasn’t interested. I was the one who would call him to ask if the kids can come over; I was the one who would drop them off/pick them up, when he did consent to see them, and then it was always rush-rush (“When you coming to pick up the kids? I got things to do.”) It was very, very frustrating because I thought he was going to be a good father based on his interactions with other children when we were dating. Now that they are adults, I still encourage them to reach out to him, and be the “better person.” He’s come around a little, but it’s still like pulling teeth. I’m sure my children miss him, though they don’t say so. They see the relationship other adult children in our family have with their fathers & I know it bothers them. I don’t have any animosity toward my ex, I just feel pity for him, because he missed out on so much. Although he attended their graduations, he missed so many birthdays, so many milestones. I just hope he reaches out before it’s really too late, before he gets old and they don’t want to have anything to do with him. But I will always continue to encourage them to have a relationship with him, because my father died when I was 6 and I never had him in my life even before that.

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